Quote: I love how happily h worked around the house yesterday -- spending time with you and your family but also getting things "done". He seems to be a man who places a lot of his self-esteem/valuation on his accomplishments. Sounds like you did a great job of appreciating him, too!
I love how happy he was too!! I amaze myself with how happy I can be just letting him be happy. in the past I would have been annoyed...wanting him to stop working...wanting him to "play" with us...wanting him to do "my thing" what a goof I was...I had a man who loved to be home...and took pride in making his home the best it could be and I was so misserable when he was doing it that I sent him the wrong message. I tell h often how great the yard looks...how hard he works...how much I appreciate all he does...
though I always did admire h for starting his business on his own..how it grew..how great he was at what he did...because it took time away from ME I resented it...in resenting his business I resented him...see that's where ow had one up on me...she could admire his work..validate him and not feel like it was taking anything away from her. I now know better..
I keep being drawn back to one of the last conversations I had with ow..where she said "you are stronger than I am (followed by a whole lot of passive aggressive crap I'll leave out)" funny thing is...it's not about strength so much as it is about wisdom!! I truly pitty her ignorance!! but I digress...
