l, i am so sorry your situation seems to be stuck. my h's 1st ow was with us our entire m(as a "friend") than 4 yrs into our m, they became more than friends off and on for almost 2 yrs! he stopped the affair on his own but he kept her in his life as a "friend" until 2 monthes after we started piecing! i often wonder myself why he didn't marry her if she was so important he had to keep her around our entire m. even if she was just a friend, why did he need that? i was a good friend...so i understand your questioning. i wish your h (and mine!) could answer all the ?'s so there could be understanding and closure. going to school will be good for you. it is hard staying home all day with the kids. try to take it a day at a time and not project into the future. we never really know what lies ahead of us. lisa
