I just wanted to get this written down as it is a change and I am not sure what is behind it. W had been quite withdrawn from me , then last Weekend we went to a musical event that S17 was in . As we got there early we had time to talk. I told her about going out with a friend ( female ) to a function a couple of nights before and how a guy at the function had asked me if me and friend were partners. I told him no we just buddies , this guy then proceeded to be over friendly to both of us and got enough info to start stalking my friend by phone. I ended up phoning him and warning him off. That’s the short story. Since then ( and the change was instant after the conversation) W has been nowhere near as distant and I would be only guessing as to why. She was at home on Sunday afternoon , and has been home when I arrived home from work for last couple of days. Normally she picks up D and is gone before I arrive. Sunday when she was home she was working on an old hobbie of hers that she has not been interested in for last year or two. She is as thoughtful and friendly towards me right now as I remember at any time through this. She had also a week or so back stopped kissing me when she left , now she is back to a solid kiss on the lips and hug. I can think of a couple of possibilities such as. 1. Her best FF saw me and my FF out a couple of weeks ago and is very unlikely not to have told W , W has been upset by this and that caused her to pull away. Me bringing up that we have been out and are not romantically linked in a round about way has been some relief to W who is also aware that there may be other women interested so has decided to real me back in a little . 2. W is indeed seeing another Man ( which was the case a month or so back) and me seeing FF takes away some of the Guilt pressure she was feeling . So down the track if she does bring OM out of the closet she can point finger at me and say but you have been going out with blab la. Not knowing of course that I know that she has been out with xxxx. Previously she has not been amused by me going out with FF. I can only but wonder but of going out with OW improves things then its WIN WIN ..LOL Somehow I don’t think its that simple , and as usual for me its business as usual , I am not changing anything , Just working on being as confident as possible both around W and Other women. One of the things that really takes a bashing when your partner wants out is confidence , particular in regards to self image. Its even worse when they are involved with OM/OW and have an appearance of confidence that is in part being propped up with this
