JMHO from a male perspective. H is feeling more comfortable with you to be able to tell/vent to you - as opposed to OW. This includes the swearing and thr gaseous emissions. H's comfort level is high enough with you to be able to totally relax without fear of you being offended.
When men are dating and trying to impress, or not offend; they are very careful with their language and their personal habits. The teeth are brushed, the hair is combed. No spitting, no swearing, no yelling - we're almost civilized!
I think being there for H to vent his professional frustrations to is very important to him. This is where you DB to the max by listening, validating, and empathizing.
From the looks of the last half of your post LL you seem to be expecting H to read your mind. You're going to have to tell H what you want - don't expect him to "just know" what you need. Man brain be thick sometimes, not always catch clues or hints - verbal or non-verbal.
Is this H's busy time of the year as well?
S T R E S S
That can play havoc with the man brain too.
Maybe LL needs to gently suggest to H some possible outlets. A picnic, a drive into the country, whatever unwinds the watchspring of stress. Sox game? A day at the beach? Use your imagination Lady!
