focussing on the good stuff!!

[sage]

I guess I'm still stuck wanting to know what their r was truly all about...

I recall in c when c was trying to explain to h that I have my "idea" about how he was with her and now expect that he can be that way so I want him to be that way with me...h's response..."half of what she thinks was going on wasn't going on"

I was TOTALLY thinking about this topic this morning! Wondering what h and ow's r. was about. The snapshot I have (the emails and the references in them) give me a picture of sorts and I was wondering if it was possible/adviseable/etc to try to bring some of it into our r. I think I've mentioned before that their r. seemed to be SO MUCH about communicating with one another (email, phone, IM) and h. doesn't do much of that stuff with me AT ALL so it feels doubly weird. (well, he does call me much more now and is talking more at home...sporadic on email and has NEVER suggested IM'ing which kinda bums me out)

I've been trying to think of ways to reduce my anxiety and fear and was wondering if lightly bringing this stuff up with h. might help -- in essence, understanding more about their r. and what aspects he might still want....dunno.

Perhaps h and ow did talk about work/illness? I DO think it's great that he's sharing more of himself with you!

3. I'm good enough! I'm smart enough! and gosh darn it...people like me!!

true, true and true!

Sage