Please don't misunderstand -- YOU have to believe it if you want THEM to. It's important for you to be able to outline the experience that you have running your family and your household WITH CONVICTION, and do NOT apologize for being out of the "real" workforce all these years!!!
Oh, and if all else fails, flash 'em the puppies. Kidding.
Oh, and if all else fails, flash 'em the puppies. Kidding.
Karen, good luck applying for and interviewing for these jobs. You should be very proud of yourself. Oh and don't be discussing "bank jobs" on your thread. Remember, I work for the feds, and deal with "bank jobs" on a daily basis.
Everybody, I have had a rough night tonight. H was at the Track Night we went to tonight so he could "cheer D8 on", but he did more yelling at me. I let slip the fact that I had switched the kids' doctor from the one in the last town we lived in (almost an hour away) to a doctor in our town 5 minutes away, and a woman (my D8 wanted a woman). I had told him several times I was going to do that as I am the one that will be taking them to the doctor's. And it's not like our old doctor was so great; he actually had malpracticed with S14 (diagnosed uveitis as pinkeye b/c he was too busy to see S14) so my son's eyes got scarred as a result of the wrong meds. So he was mad at me the whole time for that.
I have been so strong & positive the last few months, and I was having a less positive day b/c of the whole job application and not having worked in 5 years, and so it was a bad idea for me to be around him I think. Harder to ignore him and easier for him to affect me. I said at one point (yes I know I shouldn't have) that we never appreciated each other, but that I do appreciate him now, but he will never appreciate me and he said yes and agreed with me. I went in the bathroom and cried twice (I did NOT let him see me cry) and cried when I got in the car on the way home a couple minutes, and I can't remember the last time I cried--I think the day he moved out and that was about 2 months ago. He is so nice to all his friends that we saw, but so much anger and almost contempt I think for me. And I just don't know, if he is always going to drag me down, I'm not feeling very positive that we will ever make it or maybe even should (even if there was no OW). OK, I know I did horrible tonight so feel free to bring out the 2x4s! Karen
Hon, there are no 2x4's for you but I would love to take one upside your husband's head!! You are doing great. Look at how positive you have been. I think your H is just jealous plain and simple. You can keep on making the decisions that you have been making because they work for you. When your H left he gave up his right to throw in his .50 and now he is acting like a spoiled child...well actually worse but I'm not going to say! (((((Karen)))))
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
No 2x4's. Nobody expects you to never get upset. Never lose your cool. Always stay positive. These are goals, not rules. So you feel down, so what -- I personally don't see that you really did so bad. The decision you made about the doctor was reasonable. Is H taking the kids to their appointments? Maybe he should if he feels that strongly about it, but don't get sucked into fighting with each other through the kids.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
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Is H taking the kids to their appointments? Maybe he should if he feels that strongly about it, but don't get sucked into fighting with each other through the kids.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Thanks Kat and G! You both are so sweet! No I'm taking them to the appts. which was part of the reason b/c H's job doesn't really let him do that very easily, plus the fact that I didn't like the old doctor either. I think H is kind of controlling, and wants to make the decisions, and it was another example of my recently starting to do that. When I was explaining to him that it's almost an hour away and the doctor is very crowded so always a few hours' wait (if they can fit you in at all) he said something like I have all the time in the world b/c I'm not working so it should be no big deal to me. That's the kind of night we had (horrible)! Karen
