Guilty as charged.. I am a WAW.

[Bridgestone]

2nd posting

Defining the 4 stages of Divorce Busting

Hi,
I am a WAW who has been working alternative paths (besides DB) trying to work back to a relationship of some sort with H.

I am not through all my emotions of Stage One, nor is he, but we are in a place where most of the time, we can listen to the other one and it is safe to share.

We see each other almost daily, by choice, not because of custody arrangements, and talk multiple times a day on the phone.

We were once best friends & I miss that part of the relationship.
My problem is: he wants total committment to work on the MARRIAGE before he will commit to working on building back my trust and love for him. It's like he wants to go from stage 1.5 or early 2 directly to 4.

He says he loves me and there is no need for romance, that it would be fake & denying our history. That you can not be 1/2 pregnant. Either I am working on this relationship to be married or I'm not.

I am frustrated with this situation, which pushes me back to stage one, to the point at which I think I would be better just keeping things at stage 2 and filing for divorce, which he has suggested.

Thanks for listening.