Quoting lostlove:
maybe we are getting somewhere.
Maybe? MAYBE?!! MAYBE?!!! MAYBE?!!!!!

No "maybe" about it ... You ARE getting somewhere and that somewhere IS where you want to be ... a happy home.

You're not there yet, but I have all the confidence in the world that you will get there. Your're doing great listing the good things. Now also accept them as being the "good" things you want in life. Learn to accept them with no strings attach ... no hidden agenda on his behalf. They are happening because it is what the both of you want and two of you are learning how to get what you want. This is really GOOD stuff, LL!

Quoting lostlove:
(I'd just like an obituary for ow now! even if just one from h's heart)
I've been envisioning OM's house going up in a nuclear blast lately as a means to get him out of my life (& W's) I guess we all have our fantasies! Unless someone knows where I can a weapon of "mass destruction" for cheap!

'til later,
KAW