Also, I hate to say it AmyC (please don't beat me up ;)) the actions occurring on here...........here it comes.......justify the actions of the moderators eliminating contact amongst board members. ughhhhhhhhhh that sucked to even say, but it is the truth. I am not saying they should eliminate contact, but the way that some posts have come off, it justifies the belief that bad things can occur when people contact each other off the boards,
I agree with you on that 100%.
My biggest gripe - which in the end had nothing to do with you personally Ian - was the innuendo I read in posts by Jeanette and BND. I realize you had personal conversations with BND but there's a line at which you can post only so much as you want to here until you're ready to post it all (if there even IS an "all"). Those posts came off as if only BND and Jeanette knew what the hell was going on, rather it was intended that way or not. INNUENDO and POSTURING was what I raised hell about and both BND and Jeanette are (were) my friends and it wasn't coming off like I know either of them to be in reality. So yeah, I jumped and I'd jump again.
A while back, Jeanette called me because I had been posting erratically for several days. I spilled a bunch of stuff to her that involved my daughter and then another time, she detected the same thing and when she called I didn't tell her about what was going on but BECAUSE she basically called me out, I was forced to deal with the ugly situation I had gotten myself into. Basically, had I been allowed to remain in silence, I'd have been in deep sh*t. She basically flipped the light on for me and I did later put it all on the board. But how much whispering was going on at the time, I wonder after reading this mess today. It does not matter now but what does matter is that Jeanette was the only one that contacted me personally. If I were to sit here now and think of how my revelation on the board might have been talked about behind my back by those with each other's phone numbers I am certain I would never post another word on divorcebusting.com. Today it seemed as if Ian's conversation with BND was being talked about behind his back.
I didn't, and still do not, think it was right that personal conversations were alluded to in posts by BND and Jeanette. It made it seem as if Ian had stuff going on that would compromise his integrity on the boards and I took offense on his behalf. At the end of that day though, that isn't my business. Anything that remotely resembles gossip just really sticks in my craw and the posts today, at least to me, sounded as if gossip was occuring.
Ian, I apologize for being a b*tch on your thread but here, perception really is everything.
