Pinch Me.........

[Jeanette1120]

Ian,

I realize you asked to go back to the original topic, please forgive me but I also feel the need to explain myself.

I received a distraught phone call from someone I have not spoken to in a long time. I was rather bewildered why this person chose to call me, when they know where I stand on certain topics.

I listened for 4 hours.....I think we finally hung up at 3:30am.

Out of concern for her and you (yes I said you) I felt the need to say something to you, whether it was an innuendo or not, I thought you would understand my meaning.

I have made my meaning clear with every post. We all need time to heal. Some take longers than others, some heal differently than others...but for those of us who have a long standing on this board, if we see or in this case listened to it for 4 hours then, and I am speaking for myself, I felt the need to tap you on the shoulder, not draw you out or make you spill your life story. Not my intention. Nor did I ask you to "fess up" to anything.

You did that on your own. That was a good thing as it means you were thinking about your actions and how they may have hurt someone.

My intention was to let you know that maybe your actions are hurting someone, maybe your not aware of this happening, whether it be a friendly relationship or something more...you were hurting someone.

I do not have your email address I did a complete search, by the time it was given to me this whole chaos had started.

I cannot speak for BND, so I will say this on my behalf.

As a woman who has had her self esteem ripped apart it is very difficult to listen to a friend for hours being so upset about the goings on of things that sent her into such a tailspin you were all she talked about. Trust is very hard for women to regain, again thats my opinion. My first reaction was to protect a friend from something that appeared to be very unhealthy and the trust had been broken, severely broken.

I tried to do it subliminally I spose with words I thought you would catch onto.

I thought you would be able to understand that I was saying you hurt someone, so be careful in your future actions, especially when we all are so damn vulnerable.

I did not say anything wrong, but merely suggested a few things.

What Amy said about BND and I, was so out of line. Very out of line. It was also not true. Yes, BND and I talk everyday, mostly about our jobs, our kids, ourselves and normal stuff, hell, we even go virtual shopping together via our cell phones.

Her children sing songs to me on the phone. It keeps me in the real world. She is a wonderful woman.

It's not that often we discuss the boards. Not at all.

I also talk to Amy on the phone.....and I love that girl, but what she said was out of line concerning BND and myself, and very hurtful for her to cast such judgement like she did.

I meant no harm other than to advise against a personal relationship until both of you are healed instead of the walking wounded needing bandaides to get through life.

Sincerely,

Jeanette