focussing on the good stuff!!

[sage]

Maybe it does give us a little check to make sure we DON"T slip back into "old ways", I don't know. I think we're better off assuming the best and if we are disappointed again...well, I don't know about you, but I'm a MUCH stronger person now, and I will not stand for such a betrayal again. Sorry, but that's how I feel.

hey -- I don't think you have to apologize for that! I completely agree...my thought is that we BOTH (h and I) should be at the point where either one of us could say...hey, we're back in the danger zone, let's regroup. well, actually, I don't think we're quite there yet...someday.

Also, I think all of us can "sense" that things are different this time. I know I can. Even though things are far from perfect (whatever that is!) I don't have this awful sense that my world is falling apart, that I don't know who my spouse is, that the rug could be pulled out from under my feet any second...do you know what I mean??

I'm not always there yet...sometimes I see a glimmer of "things are no longer in the complete danger zone" and other times, heck, I"m still there. It is so much better now than it was, though....

Sage