focussing on the good stuff!!

[sage]

Seems like the three of us have Ses that ARE doing things for us that either they were not doing during their As, or that they never did. They are trying to demonstrate their commitments to us through "actions." Rather than clinching our eyes in self-doubt or pain, we need to open them to realize their "gifts." LL, lately you've done very well with this; Sage, you've been trying to get beyond this; and I, unfortunately, have been stuck.

It's definitely true for me that h is now doing things that he NEVER did before...it's pretty amazing stuff, actually. jethro -- have you considered doing the 3 positives? It made a huge difference for me way back when -- it was the tool I used to note the things that h. was doing (hard for me to notice since I had been looking for "other stuff" that I wanted!)

Sage