focussing on the good stuff!!

[sage]

LL --

WELL...you know that I can relate!

ok, I caught a case of the what if's today and I don't know how to shake it.

How CAN you shake it? You say so much in your post that I can identify with...AND your post is action-oriented too! (In good db fashion!)

You think about calling someone (h or mom), life "as if", shut out the thoughts, sneaking out for a movie, dealing with it on your own (not asking h for reassurance right now), focusing on the stuff he IS doing....

ALL of this is SO good -- do you see how different this post is? It's about scary, scary stuff and yet, you're so bravely looking at how to shake it.

What HAS worked for you? I love the movie idea ... (altho' I did hear some mixed reviews of "Identity" ). Interesting that h seems lonely when you go off and do something....maybe that's not so bad?

Sage