If you are doing all that stuff, that would be the right track for me. I would have a heart attack if my wife behaved that way. Initially, I might be suspicious, but that would seriously be an answer to prayer.
My thought might be in some agreement with Charlie Brown that there might be a HUGE wall that needs to come down.
A thought on him dressing well etc. I know I need to feel like I could still seduce SOMEBODY. Since it is not my wife, I get a kick out of catching another woman give me the second glance etc. Part of this goes back to the male ego. It is really demoralizing to have landed the big fish and then find out the fish doesn't want what you have after she sampled the wares. This starts a round of destructive questioning, "I am a lousy lover, fat, unattractive," etc etc.
Before I got married, I worked really hard at seducing women, collected different types etc. I eventually got myself straightened out and quit that stuff and then met my wife. Now, here is the one I gave my heart to, and she does not find me attractive. Someting to ponder.
