I agree 100% Deauxlie. I dont want to ruin this positive momentum by bringing up the past. We are moving forward so there is no sense in looking behind. In hindsight, this needed to happen. Like you, I am growing pretty confident our marriage has passed this 'test' and we are going to be stronger for it.
I share the same concern; making sure she doesnt lose the belief in me and our marriage. But that seems to be up to us...and what more evidence do we need to see that our efforts have paid off? Its very motivating!
Me: 37 Wife: 40 Son: 7yo Son: 18 mo Bomb: 12/31/07 Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now