i just found out that the social worker talked to my therapist and my therapist (who hadn't seen me in 2 weeks) was alarmed by how much weight I had lost. she told him that I'm not "crazy" but thinks that given what I have gone through, it won't be the worst thing in the world to have h have d5 for a month or 2. he told me that is what he is going to tell the court tomorrow.
maryangela, please get yourself some help. I am worried about you.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Does the therapist understand that you want your daughter your share of the time? It sounds like the therapist was asked if it was OK for D to stay with your H, not if you were able to take care of a child. "Not the worst thing in the world" is not a glowing recommendation. Perhaps the therapist was referring to the summer camp schedule for the next 2 months, where you have only 2 days a week. I think this statement needs to be clarified. There might be a misunderstanding here.
OK I posted that call 911 quickly because I am worried and I want to see you get some real, true help. Please. I sincerely hope that you are either on your way to a hospital or that someone is on their way to get you. Until you get that help, maybe you can read here.
So, I'll post more now.
1. Your thread's probably going to lock soon - you may want to start a new one.
2. Sara is right, you need to get clarification.
3. Your therapist probably knows you better than anyone, certainly better than any of us here possibly could. IF she did in fact mean that you shouldn't have your D for the next 1-2 months (or only have her part time), maybe that break is a good idea. I have known at least a couple of people who took "mental health vacations" during their sitches and things are much better now. Donna_Found posts in Surviving and is the first one to come to mind. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.
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i'm done nik. i can't go on without d in this house.
So you're going to what, abandon her completely???
Your therapist said a break might be good for you. Maybe it would be. She didn't say "forever," she said a break.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
PS - I should clarify, the "mental health vacation" I referred to was a week long (if I remember right) stay in a mental hospital. And she has primary custody of her children now. So please don't avoid getting help because of custody fears.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
my mom and sister are freaking out. someone called 911 and the police came. I got rid of him. if I go to the hosptial it will be used against me, believe me. can't.
