I wouldn't say anything about it right now, but just wait until you next speak to H. Then mention that next time you'd really apprecite it if he let you know if he was planning to take S somewhere as otherwise you'd worry where he was.
And leave it at that. I know it's not acceptable for H to do this, but I'm not sure it will help you to call H on it strongly. What would be a 180 for you in this situation?
Actually, that is exactly what ended up happening Lisa.
H had called when I was on my way back from dropping of my mom to tell me that he could get an almost new recliner for her. We had been going to buy her a new recliner for Christmas last year but everything obviously went straight to heck so we didn't do it. He was helping a friend move and the guy had two nearly new recliners and said he'd sell him one of them cheap. H bought it and brought it to the house when he dropped of S13. He called me back to tell me he moved the old recliner into the garage and vacuumed and he will pick it up this weekend to dump it. He also said he was sorry he didn't think to call me and let me know he was picking up S and he is going to come get him tomorrow morning to get his hair cut.
I talked with a lot of cheer in my voice and sounded perfectly happy. My acting skills were put to the test in a big way!
I'm off to have dinner at my favorite Thai place right now. I'm actually eating in the restaurant by myself. I've never done that ever before. I'm freaking out but I have a book to read so it won't be too bad. I wish they had Wi-Fi there. I'd have brought my laptop and had virtual dinner with you all!
I have my group tonight so I'll check in with you all later.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Wow Mishka.. that sounds like a very positive convo with your H... and he bought a recliner for your Mom?? That's rather thoughtful of him. Is he usually thoughtful like that or could this be considered a positive step?
He's not usually that thoughtful. If an opportunity arises he takes it. He sent me a text at about 8:45p asking me how I liked the recliner. It felt really good to be able to tell him (about 30 minutes later) that I wasn't home yet but was looking forward to seeing it. He didn't ask me where I was or anything which is just as well since I wouldn't have told him.
When I got home and saw and sat in the recliner I sent him a text telling him that it is wonderful and that it was very nice of him to do that for my mom. That I appreciated it very much and thank you. He replied with you're welcome. she needed it.
I left it at that. About an hour later he sent another text asking if I was asleep yet. I asked him what was up and he just said that he wanted to wish me a good night.
hmmmmmm.........do you think he might still be pondering our R convo from last Saturday? I hope so. I really do. As dumb as he can be I still love him with my whole heart.
I'll continue to keep hope alive and pray for guidance but have NO EXPECTATIONS!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
He is pondering. No telling where his pondering will lead, but he is pondering. Actually, he's a guy. He may be sloshing through, or plodding. Pondering sounds a bit too thoughtful.
Ok Mishka regarding son and taking him out. YOu text or e-mail and say h that was nice of you to swing by the house and get s and take him out to panda. He really enjoyed that. thank you. Oh next time if you pick him up could you please call and let me know I don't want to worry if he is not home.
short and simple no emotions.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
