I think giving her the space she needs has been my biggest problem.
And yet you have been doing it so well!
Originally Posted By: jonzy
I have told myself time again and again that if this has any chance of working at all I need to recognize all her needs and let her be. This gives me time to reflect on me and what I don't like so I can change ME. I wish I could change her but as we all know that is not going to happen.
All very wise words.
Originally Posted By: jonzy
tink I will not disappoint ya but give me time to word it right and be in the right mindset to ask it!
LOL Don't worry about disappointing me. And yes give yourself the time to word it right, that's what the paper and pencil is for. And yes be in the right mindset. Perhaps wait until she initiates dinner (or backrub or whoopie, or movie etc) again and then calmly ask the question you have rehearsed (or have the paper in front of you by your end of the phone)
Just remember, there are a lot of people on this board whose spouses are only talking about D, not giving all these huge and frequent signs that they still want them.
