Impossible situation??

[happycamper]

Thanks DanceQueen for your reply and your honesty.

I do understand what you are saying. I think both of us acknowledge that it was a very unfortunate start to our marriage, more so given H's past. It is not something that either of us can be blamed for and God knows I endured enough horrible counselling trying to find out the answer. I guess the only thing I would say is that if I knew the effect it would have on our R I would have probably have forced myself to masturbate much sooner.

It's only in the last week or so have I realised the relationship of the first 10 years to his current position. And I have to tell you, as I have told him (but not too much!) that I bitterly, bitterly regret the impact it has had and the way it has affected him personally. As much as I can accept responsibility, I do, and I can empathise with how he feels at the moment.

You know the really sad thing is, one of our issues is his over-spending. And what does he buy? Designer underwear, designer ties, nice clothes, male grooming stuff. Why? Because he wants to be attractive to someone, even if it isn't me.