Wow Kerrysal, brutal honesty. No offensive taken to your post, but good questions that I'm sure others are asking as well...
First of all, none of this is 100% my fault, nor is it 100% h's fault. We both contibuted to our marriage falling apart. I CANNOT control h. I CANNOT make him do anything, or be the person I want him to be. I CAN, however, control myself. I can decide on my actions and my words each and every moment of my life. And, at the end of the day, I can go to sleep knowing that I have been a wife and mother worth being proud of.
Also, it has been my stance, and will remain my stance that H is not going to be moving back home unless there are REAL changes on his end. That means he takes responsibility for his problems, addresses his contributions and begins to repair.
This goes back to me doing only what I can do. From your perspective, it may look like a doormat. In fact, it is far from it. I take control of myself, fix the things in me that need to be fixed, and allow God to control the rest. (That's actually the hard part).
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
