Isn't it strange that so many people have found themselves entangled in an EA with someone on this board.
I am willing to bet that 99.9% of them never ever intentionally wanted it to happen.
But us peeps understand one another's pain.
Many of us have been on the phone with one another for hours at a time, sharing one another's burdens.
We chat on IM, we sent texts and emails, and some of us actually go as far as to visit fellow DB'ers.
Again, it is all so innocent when it starts, especially as a friend.
And when our own WAS is off in Neverland, and we need someone to be there for us we turn to someone on the board.
For those of us who actually DB, we learn so much about ourselves and so much about the things we need to change about ourselves.
We learn about what it is that we truly want out of a relationship with someone, whether it is our WAS or someone new.
And we share these new hopes and dreams and fears with someone of the opposite sex, who is also our friend and sometimes those feelings change into something else.
WTFlip does this have to do with what Ian IS discussing on this thread, BND?
I don't give a rat's ass about what information you are privy to from private conversations with Ian - nor do I care if he's in a EA with someone else from these boards.
I reckon you and Jeanette can burn up the phone lines tonight talking about me now but my opinion on this subject is twofold and stands independant of your "private information":
1) It is wrong of you to reference your one on one conversations with Ian on this thread. Further, it is wrong for you to discuss those things on the phone with Jeanette. Ian can reveal in his own time whatever he wants to here - and he can withhold information as well.
2) You and Jeanette are hopping up on some kind of righteousness bandwagon that to be honest, is really ugly, judgmental and pompous.
I know both your stories - and let me remind you I know both of you have compromised your own "stands" in the past just as I did - YEAH - I WENT THERE but precisely because I've compromised myself previously I wouldn't dare to pop off with the attitude you and Jeanette are conveying on this thread.
Have you both forgotten where you came from???
Ian is a divorced, single father.
Moreover, he is a SMART, divorced, single father.
Back the hell off him and knock it off with the self-righteous, innuendo-laced posts.
Both of you can communicate with Ian privately via email and I suggest you do it.
There are others that read these threads and you are both coming off so holier than thou that it's making me sick.
