I hope you don't see this as an intrusion, but I've been lurking and reading your sitch since day 1 and I'm finding I just *can't* keep my mouth shut any longer. I truly mean no disrespect, but need to say this.
Your husband is abusive. Verbally, emotionally..you name it. A messy car, untidy house and kids that act like kids..those are reasons for him to treat you as he does? I'm sorry, but I can't begin to imagine why you would want him home. I keep seeing Dom telling you to apologize for this, apologize for that..are you freaking kidding me? You work & care for the kids, maintain the house, bills and he, what, goes to work? Can you not see this? He takes NO responsibility for how he talks to you, how he treats you..everything is YOUR fault. He is emotionally blackmailing you and you just take it, in fact, you ask for more.
I know this is a marriage 'saving' site, and I am 100% not trying to 'start' anything....however I see me in you with what you are putting up with and I had to say something, from my heart. I strongly suggest you look into some IC for you because you are NOT 100% to blame here, not by a longshot. You are walking on eggshells to make sure everything is as 'he' likes it..all the while he is trashing you & calling you selfish. He doesn't want a wife, he wants a mother. I truly apologize if I've offended you, but I can't believe everyone is sitting here telling you to apologize for everything all the while he's been nothing but NASTY to you...my god, why would you even want that back?
