Ok Chris, you DID write him a letter asking him to leave...right? You did that for YOU, right? Look at this as a chance for you and your girls to be out of the the tense situation....and a chance for your H to see that the grass isn't greener.
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But he still just gets stuck on that "but I don't love you, and I never will again". To which (again, bigtime DB flunky here) said....... you know, you didn't love me the moment we met. We dated, we had experiences, we got to know each other, we had fun, and through those positive interactions, love grew. How can you be so sure that by us working to have those times again.
You are still trying to convince him. You can't. He has to figure it out on his own. I know that is hard to grasp....but you have to. You have to quit saying these things to him.
I think you just have to look at this as something he has to do. He has to figure it out on his own. Since my H has come back he has said how he thought the grass was greener and all that but he soon realized it wasn't. He has said that he didn't realize how good he had it until he was gone. I think it is much better for him to realize that on his own and to KNOW it for himself. If he had just stayed because I convinced him or guilted him into it....he probably still would have always wondered.
Hang in there. What have you done for yourself lately??
