When a wife gets to the point that she feels she must walk away, they pretty much are done. They've already tried and tried and tried to get their points a crossed, their feelings heard, and/or things to change. Typically, a WAW at this conjuncture, wants to move forward.
But I've learned that it doesn't mean that they won't listen. If the message gets sent loud and clear with true sincerity and they see actual positive change occur, they either will fight it more, (things sometimes get worse before they get better, ride the storm) resist the change, before they will accept it and more forward. At this point you have to remember that most are just so tired that any change, in their view, is not possible.
It's not to say that you shouldn't try, but the ultimate goal is you have to look deep inside yourself and figure out what you are responsible for, take accountability for that, and make a true change... not just to win her over. If she had cause to leave, then you have to ask yourself... why? You have to be honest with yourself.
Typically, I don't think that most WAW's are looking to be chased. I'm sure some may, but from most of what I've learned here, most don't. They already are spent.
I feel that I am not a typical WAW, I think of myself in between a WAW, LBS and possibly dealing with a midlifer... I did what I needed to do to make a strong stand and draw a line on boundaries to some very bad behavior that I do not feel is necessary.
