Onward and upward

[mishka422]

Thanks Grace. That actually sounds like it might work. The only problem with it is that I can't make any plans for nights when H claims he's going to take S13 to karate. I have been trying to join a small group bible study but I can't because H is so unreliable. I don't want my son to feel like he's 2nd place because I've made plans already but maybe that's how he'll learn. What do you think?

I do need to advice ASAP please. I'm biting my tongue and sitting on my hands to keep from calling or texting H about this one.

I called S13 to make sure he was up (otherwise he sleeps till noon!) and to ask him to unload the dishwasher. When he answered and I asked what he was doing he told me that he was with his dad and they went to Panda Express for lunch. Excuse me? H did not call or text me to tell me he was picking up our son. What if I hadn't called him and I got home from picking up my mom from dialysis and he wasn't here? I would have freaked out that something had happened to him. I want to tell H that he needs to let me know if he's going to pick up our son to take him out somewhere so I know where he's at but now I'm second guessing everything I say or do for fear that he's going to think I'm criticizing him.

This is a safety issue, not a control issue. I don't care if he comes and takes him out. Actually, I think it's great that he did, but he needs to let me know.

How do I approach this?