Well, looks like I'll finally be moving out of this forum.
I'm guessing that after my phone call to the OW a while back, suggesting she ask for the truth, H has gone completely into spending most of his time w/her & reassuring her that he's finally moving forward on the D, after 14 months. On Monday, when I asked if he was looking for a house to buy, he said "Well, I'm not coming back, at least not for a long time, maybe never."
When he arrived to P/U S5 yesterday for dinner, he was short, businesslike & distant. (Although he still asked if I wanted to go with them). Gone were the attempts at kissing/hugging. In there place was a run down of activities on the agenda, including sail planing today ("And please don't try to reach me, I won't be available").
Last weekend he cancelled getting together w/ S5 because he was going to the mountains, etc.
So, here's where it all "went pearshaped", as CK likes to call it.
When Mr. Cold left last night, he changed out his cars & left the one he had been driving parked in front of the house. He has used the booster seat out of my car, so I used the spare key to get it out. On the front console, there were a couple of folded notes from H to OW, talking about how upset he was that she wasn't answering his calls & wasn't home to meet him at the agreed time. "I thought you said Fridays were for us", and "I'm really bummed, because I'm thinking that this is no accident," etc.
What I got from that is that after my call to her, she began wanting to see real movement out of his M, & she was going to start distancing herself to get him off the fence.
I called him & basically said I was ready to hop off, that the cage door is wide open, I won't keep myself in this unhealthy sitch any longer.
Too which he replied, "You haven't changed a bit", "Our personalities together just don't work", & a few additional post bomb hits.
I did ask him, if he felt that way, why all the invitations, why didn't he file, and here's the topper;
"I didn't know for sure & infact didn't make up my mind until this very minute. We're done, beyond done, & I'll have an offer for you on Friday. I have to get some rest now, that's so your MO to call after 9pm. I have to get my thing's ready for tomorrow."
It appears that I'm out of limbo & that's a good thing. I have no regrets, & that's another good thing. I wouldn't trade what I learned here for anything. Or the friends I've met & made...
CVA when the H*ll are you coming back from your trip!!! A week without our nightly phonecalls is really tough to get thru!
Take Care,
Sunny
Thanks for dropping Dave, Sunshine Kalni & SD Didn't mean to bring the wrath on your thread (((SD)))
