It may be the kick in the pants H needs, but it's my last straw. H is saying alot, but I'm waiting for actions - I'm especially waiting for us both to meet w/ OW. That is going to be the turning point for me. If it doesn't happen, the rest of it doesn't matter.
I have seen H a few times since the "letter" and have talked with him quite a bit on the phone. We've discussed him giving notice at his apartment and him telling D that he is moving home. He says he will do both next week. Telling D is a huge step, as I know he does not want to hurt her or give her false hope. But I do have to remind myself that the A began while he was living at home & he carried it on for over a year b/f he moved out. Telling OW not to ever contact him again, with me present, will be the one thing that makes me believe that this time really is different.
I'm meeting w/ my coach tonight (not a DB coach, but someone local I have found) to talk about the next steps. She went through a very similar situation w/ her H and now says that her marriage is better than she could have imagined. I can't tell you how much of a difference that is making for me hearing what she felt and did and what her H told her he was feeling. We all need to find the right kind of C or coach or person to talk to - it really does make all the difference.
As for you, Mike, I'm glad to hear that you are doing what you need to do for yourself. Just be honest w/ yourself about what you are prepared to do if your W changes her mind and wants to try again w/ you. Thanks for stopping in.
FA
What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.
FA:43, H:42 D:7 M:10 yrs, T:24 yrs EA:?, PA:1/06 S:3/07 EA/PA ongoing Aborted attempt to move home 07/08
