The Ultimatum

[cat03]

FA, I'm picking up my jaw from the floor, as I read my story in your story, the similarities are just scary, the H seeming to work the M, the hidden and uncovering of As, the "trips", the finding out about ow, the ow crying and being horrified and told she was going get married to the creep, etc etc. The same SAME freaking spinelessness of our Hs.
Don't want to be a stick in the mud, but at this point your H seems to be so involved with her that he will find himself unable to let go of her, my stbx was the same, not strong enough to tell me the truth nor tell her, didnt' want to hurt anyone (*sigh*) but ended up horrible hurting 2 women. My stbx waffled back and forth, between what he knew and his family and "doing right" by the ow, the guilt and the water works from ow just muddled the waters.

You did right, enough was enough. My stbx took the easy way out, told me he "figured out" we were never compatible, brought up ancient stuff and wanted a LS, so that's were are now.

However, I will pray for you, I'll pray that perhaps your H isn't mentally ill like mine and decides to drop ow despite how hard it might be, and go for the gold, your M.

Good luck hon))))))))))))))))