Aren't we all lucky to have each other at this moment in time?
"I'm not going anywhere, you take the time you need to figure out what you really want long-term. I want you to be happy with or without me. (that one sucks I know) Our family is the most important thing in my life, & I'll do whatever it takes to make you happy".
Just reading what cookie's husband said makes me feel safe, calm down and eases the confusion in my brain.
As great as this board is, working with a qualified therapist is even better. The good ones help you get out of your own way, heal and make those positive changes in life that are yours to keep.
This place has been a outlet for despair, learning, sharing and finding my way.
Everything you do right now that helps you become a better person BUILDS. This is the time to use everything at your disposal... therapist, online counseling, friends here, books, support groups... EVERYTHING.
You look at our cookie. This woman hasn't gotten to where she is alone. She reads a zillion books, works harder in therapy.. goes farther, deeper, applies what she learns, throws in the towel, has the towel picked up by another and keeps on going.
As crazy, horrible, emotional, terrible this time is...
This is a GIFT...
Your wife has given you a gift.
The same way a pine cones need a raging fire to release the seeds, so does this new growth begin.
