Saffie, I've seen you help so many people here and give out wonderful advice... why can't you support her here, where she is comfortable?
I don't have a clue what this site is that you and others keep trying to almost "recruit" people over to... is there something I said that you feel would harm Ingrid's efforts in some way?
Please, Saffie, if I'm/we are not doing well at this, let me know because we have no idea who may be reading. This is just a support group for those who are trying to DB. Ingrid has done an amazing amount of reading... but wants to try to get things on track... again, why can't you offer support here?
I'm sorry Ingrid, for interupting the conversation, thanks for answering so honestly.
It sounds like you are reaffirming your boundries in a way you are comfortable. If your S had not been around at that moment, who knows where that conversation could've gone?!?! You took a step toward telling him that you don't want to share, while giving him a hint of what he's missing. There are many ways to get our message across.
I want to think about everything we've talked about since we "met" here and write more later. I'm a little distracted and worried -- and honestly a bit intimidated by the other stuff going on here that I don't understand.
