Actually, I think it's right ON topic, just not the one you want to keep pounding on Ian about, which in my opinion doesn't apply to him anyway as has been pointed out throughout this thread, with supporting details...
Originally Posted By: Jeanette1120
The young girl you work with?
I find it interesting that you stuck the "young" in there since although she's certainly younger, she's very much an adult. You make it sound like she's in high school or something.
Originally Posted By: Jeanette
Whether it's for you, or for someone your hurting, someone you've hurt or someone you may hurt.
That pretty much covers the entire human population...
Jeanette, I don't know you so don't take this personally, but since you've now gone from 'kinda' judgmental to what I consider full-on 'holier than thou' mode, I just wanted to comment on it. You really make it sound like Ian (or in a broader sense any guy with kids) shouldn't date again, casually or otherwise, following a D - until some vague, undefined amount of "healing time" has passed. What is that time frame? How do you know when the healing is done? Is there some manual or formula? You seem unable to accept even the possibility that Ian is in a place where it's "acceptable" that he meet new people and pursue even a casual relationship with the opposite sex, and I find it odd. I'd be interested in hearing why you think that...or in you correcting me if I've misinterpreted you...
Ian- You have a point, I'll check those two out over the next few days. My main concern has been balancing the experiences I've gone through versus the fact that a lot of folks over there in Newcomers are still fighting for their M's. We'll see...
Kev
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius
"God alone decides the contest; but we must put our shoulders to the wheel." -Adm. D.G. Farragut
Kevin-38; XW-36 M-2.5, together 4 Bomb-1/6/07; D-6/27/07
