Yesterday was a good day. I had to go into my new office early in the morning before I went to my current job. I was up before 4am and must have woke my wife up because she called me at work to ask why I went into work so early. I can't remember the last time she called just to talk. Usually its about the kids, the house or something that needs done.
I got home cut the grass, got the kids dinner than went back into my new office to finish up what I started in the morning. Told my D that her mother will be home to her and her brother to swim and I would pick them up because my W plays Texas Hold'em on Wednesday at a resturant with her sister and dad.
She ends up calling me again to ask if I was picking the kids up and started to discuss some of the things that were going on at work. Unfortunatley I had to get this job done so I had to end the called quickly.
After I picked the kids up I read DR for a while then went to bed around 10:30 was tired from being up since 4. W came home around 11:00 and came straight to bed. Unlike her normally after poker she watches tv. She was suprised I was up and we talked for a while then she said I sould get some rest and wished me good night. When I rolled over she snuggled up to me. First time in weeks that has happened.
This morning she was up again and when I got out of the bathroom she commented on the fact that I was all dressed up again. Told her thanks and that I was getting ready for my new job and thats why I have been getting so dressed up lately. Told her to have a good day, she said you too and I left for work.
I am tring to not read to much into this but will take any positive signs I can. I need to remember to play it cool and take it one step at a time.
All good. Let her snuggle. Talk to her and listen. Be her friend. Don't push or pressure. Appreciate the snuggles but don't force the physical stuff from your end.
She is interested in you right now.
Stay the path. No R talks unless she initaites. And then keep your mouth shut and listen. Even if she calls you the worst, most vile names she can, you let it roll off your back and validate her. Validate and empathize. Did you get a small notebook to write specific requests from her down on paper so you can remember them?
You really don't need to forget anything right now..
You need to be patient right now. Very patient. More patient than patient..
Do not do anything that she would percieve as pressure..
You know how you felt when you first met her? You know how you went real slow at first? YOU need to go slow. Slower than slow.
You need to be her friend. She will turn the snuggles into more than snuggles if you will just "be her friend"
Stay the course. You're doing good. I want you to succeed. I'll be here.
