Thanks guys. I guess I've also been avoiding the R talk and opening up too much and she could be reacting to that. it's hard to expose myself to this on one hand and near impossible not to on another. I'll get the books recommended and keep you all posted. Onwards and Upwards!!
-------- Me; 38 W; 34 1 4yr old S Married 4.5 yrs, together 9 yrs Bomb; 15 June 2007 Holiday together Sept 2008; My Dad dies Nov 2008; reconcliation fails Nov 2008