Onward and upward

[AliSuddenly]

I disagree, he showed concern for you there.. could you see that? He reassured you "the cops are coming to break up the party across the street" - that is sweet I think, he is showing some sense of responsibility for you and he wished you sleep well.

If I were seeing someone and I found out they were texting their ex (sorry) wishing them goodnight, I would want to know what the hell they were doing that for !? And I agree with Glamgirl about getting on his case about your son, I'm sure it hurts like hell to see him treat him that way but he can only figure it out for himself. Getting sniffy with him will not further your case, it will pile more guit onto him and drive home that he is useless.

I think you need to rethink your strategy regarding this and resolve to handle it a certain way. If you feel angry at him, DONT call him, call a friend/your Mum or whatever and let it out on them, before you call him. I thik you should just state the facts then be quiet...let the penny drop in his own mind, like "you were due to take S to karate tonight" - but in a calm voice, not a let down, hurt, resentful or whatever voice!

As I have said before, if we are going to get through this, you need acting skills. These guys cant handle our true feelings, emotions, so if we want to stay close to them, you have to become like them - weear a mask, dont let them see whats really going on in your mind/heart. Beat them at their own game :-)

Ali xxx