I feel your pain. Remember they often project things, meaning they say things that look as if they are directed at you, but they really are things they think of themselves.

When they spew they are often angry at themselves.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11