YR, Thank you so much! I am hoping that is what she wanted. I was her favorite DIL b/c I would talk to her & not boss her around like one of them & the other one just doesn't like to be around her at all. Plus they have both been rather hateful to her at times, but I haven't. So I just don't know. I hope she will try again, but I'm not going to call her.
I'm doing my best to turn it over to God, I'm trying really hard. I get so scared sometimes that I'll never see H again. I do hope he is thinking of me.
Many people, and most likely this includes your MIL have absolutely no clue what MLC is about and therefore, it is easy for them to judge what they see. It is so easy for people to say you should move on but you know what? Don't listen to them. You have to do what you are led to do and what you want to do. Dont give up just because others are insinuating you do so unless of course, this is your ultimate decision.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I FELT SO TRAPPED WHEN I KNEW IN MY HEART MY h WAS HAVING MLC....NO ONE WOULD LISTEN TO ME....I FOUND THIS PLACE..40/60 FIRST...AND I JUST KNEW.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
No one would listen because they have absolutely no clue what MLC entails. People laugh and say it is when they buy a new car or join the gym. It is so much more than that.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I wouldn't let the comment made by your MIL faze you. It's just words. My mom said the same thing, how long are you going to wait and let him continue to hurt you. She said I know it's your life and you will do what you want to but I just worry about you and hate to see you hurting.
I know what I want to believe in my heart but don't know if I'm just fooling myself in to thinking he may return....My heart says yes, my mind says yes....but his actions and words say absolutely not....I did some very intense praying the other night...for God to just take it away from me so I can breathe freely and not care where H is....that is the hard part....My MIL...well...she just wants me not to care and move on saying he will always be a part of my life...yea well....grrrrrr.....
I think the lonliness is the killer....the feeling you have when you have no one to talk to...I mean...H was my best friend...now he's her best friend.....
And....the painting is done!!!!!!!!!!!It looks beautiful....so serene....and my room looks so much bigger....the color is called sea lily which is like the ocean green...omg...I just love it...and I did all the moving of dressers, the bed...you name it...all by myself...I am taking pictures of my kids from when they were born up til now and printing them in sepia and framing them in white and I have one whole wall to display them...all different sizes....I'm actually amazing myself...LOL!! Then I went out in the 90 degree weather and cut the grass...yep...although son had to show me how to start it...it's weird...but I did it, now I know...LOL!!
Then went grocery shopping and now I can't move...LOLOLOLOL!! I am so sore...too funny....but it's done....my upstairs is coming together...one room at a time....just like this MLC crap....one day at a time...
off to bed....even my fingers hurt.... Treese
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Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
My mom said the same thing, how long are you going to wait and let him continue to hurt you. She said I know it's your life and you will do what you want to but I just worry about you and hate to see you hurting.
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YR; My mom said the exact same thing...amazing...
Last edited by Treese; 06/12/0802:53 AM.
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
See what you can do when you put your mind to it. I bet it does look beautiful!
We just can't rush MLC that is for sure. It takes so much time and that is the kicker. I was where you are right now. I was frustrated with the whole thing. Keep yourself busy. That is what I had to do so my mind could get a much needed rest. Leave the rest to God!
I'm sitting here in tears tonight. I know, I need to just turn it over to God but I'm having a hard time!
When H was staying in the same house with me I lost about 30 lbs & he could tell. The night he cussed me out he made the comment that I was hurt innocent little thing just sitting here & that I was a leech & he just wanted to get away from me. I keep remembering that night & I have it on tape (he didn't know I taped that) & it hurts so bad the things he said to me! He did come to me 3 days later & apologize for the language he used, so I don't know if someone told him to do that or if he felt guilty. I just keep hearing it over & over in my mind, things he said & it hurt so bad!!!
I try to stay strong but I just miss him so bad & can't believe he treated me like he did. I know he is very upset about the outcome of the D & like I've said before, I'm afraid he will hold a grudge & never come back.
Sorry, I didn't mean to get into all of this. He was just so mean to me during all of this & I know it's because things didn't go like he planned. He used to have moral values & used to me such a nice person & he loved me so much. I just hope he will come to his senses & I will hear from him again.
Thanks for being here for me! Just a rough night!!!!
