Success! WAW isnt gonna walk!

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Hello everyone & thank you for the thoughtful replies!

Without creating a quote-crazy post...here it goes.

1.) As of right now, wife is very sweet and seems to be moving forward in general. Lots of talk of booking a family vacation soon. Quite a bit of talk about resuming the plan to expand our family. Seems very pleased with the improvements I made for myself. (as am I) There is almost NO relationship talk at all, just moving forward as if nothing happened. Obviously there is no denial from either of us about the past 6 months, but she seems more content to talk & plan for the near future for now. The last 6 months have been hard on us both so I dont mind not talking about heavy issues at the moment.

2.) She was having an online EA with an old boyfriend who lives out of state. I believe what most convinced her of my changes/improvements was how I handled myself both towards her as well as in the letter I wrote to OM once I discovered the EA. I really took the high road in my reaction. She seemed to respond especially well as I forgave her almost immediately and was not a jerk at all. Yes, this still hurts me, and we have not discussed it since. But it was a clear turning point for the better IMO.

3.) We have identified a new MC we would like to schedule visits with and I will likely bring up some of my concerns during these sessions.

4.) The only thing she is worried about (from what I can tell) is me falling back into former poor behavior. Otherwise she seems delighted with my personal progress and is very receptive to spending time together and developing new interests.


I noticed I was coming on hot & heavy and while she is being very sweet about it, I could sense it was a little overwhelming for her at times. I have since backed down a little, but I have always been very forward in my desire for her over the years and it would seem odd to her if it stopped completely. She loves my enthousiasm towards her, our relationship, and our plans for the future

For the most part, things are like the 'good ol days' with one exception: she is no where near as forward with her affection for me as she once was. But she is far more affectionate than she has been over the last 6 months. I do believe (hope) this will slowly increase as she becomes more and more confident that my positive changes are permanent. This seems pretty normal to me considering the circumstances and I am not in a huge rush to see things improve here. We actually seem to have a sex life again, and regularly have been sleeping in the same bed, so I am not gonna nit pick here!

Its only been about a week since things started on the ups, but its been very good and I do believe as long as I continue being the person I am now vs. the person that pushed her away - we are gonna be OK.

Dont want to take anything for granted, but things seem very positive right about now

:-)



PS - I thought about what my objective was in sharing my hurt with her, and I came to the conclusion its pretty pointless. Gonna let water pass under the bridge rather than rub each other's noses in the past. There is almost nothing good that would come from it. Just forgive & forget and happily move on.