thanks for everyone's insight.

Someone could actually FILE for someone else? Well, my attorney filed for me...so I guess so!

Yes, sometimes it drives me CRAZY trying to figure itout....but it's been a year and I can't let this craziness get in the way of taking care of myself and my children.

Oh child support will be served soon. I have to call back sometime next week to find out if there are any confirmations on the addresses I provided and whether they were able to contact his employer.

I'm planning to visit in October w/the kids...to go and see people from my home church. I've been debating on whether I should let someone on his side of the family know, then they can decide on whether to tell him or not or just whether they want to see the children or not.

A good friend of mine told me, whatever I do...I should make sure to always do the right thing. And to let them be aware we are there would be the right thing, wouldn't it?