I wasn't even sure about the word "pain". What people have for the first months is pain. As you work on yourself, even when you are fairly happy, there is this vague "pining away", that almost seems pathologic, but it's still there. I don't think that a month after your spouse leaves that you find someone else to forget them, but if you've been at this for quite a while, and essentially accepted it's over with your spouse, I do feel like something is different when you have this band-aid of someone else. You finally can say, even if the person you dated isn't right for you, "what was I wanting my spouse back for?", kind of like Ian now realizing that the Scotland or Ireland thing wasn't so bright.
Yeah, I think there is kind of a "first one" that let's you know where you stand. Do you think that's misguided?
Last edited by Phoenixdeux; 06/11/0809:32 PM.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
