The last time I spoke to my husband and I asked as to what he wanted to do he still saying "I dont know" give me space... I need time???/ Time for what? be a man as fess up to it.. Why is he not sure of what he wants? he says he still loves me.... but nothing else...
I have stopped asking questions and I have not spoken to him in 5 days and it feels like a hundred years ago...dont know if the O/W is still in the picture but I dont really care all I care about is getting my family back.. For all I know he could have a different girlfriend so lots of prayers during the day.... still waiting on God to get thru to him, because I know I cant.
I have actually for a few seconds felt in my heart some faint recollection of happiness feelings and it feels good.. Am moving to a new apt. with our daughter of 13 She is so excited but she will not speak to her Dad and he wont call her either..
thanks for listening
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
There is one very important thing that I saw here. Let me quote you.
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he says he still loves me
Just accept that. Get the other negative feelings out of your head. It is very hard not to want to ask, but it does no good. Your emotions can only push him away at this point, so if you want to save your family, it is up to you to keep them in check. I know my emotions did not help and all they did was serve to push my ex away to the point that my C said it seems like you are trying to push her away. Instead of waiting for God to work on him, ask God to work on your patience. It could take a while. But that patience will give you the best chance for success.
Well it is going on 8 days since we last talked. and I have not heard a peep from him my daughter did get a call from him on Sunday rang only once maybe he hung up who knows... So she called back and they spoke for a little while.. I asked my son next time he would talk to him to ask him if he has spoken to his sister and he told him he should She has done nothing wrong.. so I guess that is why he called her But he told my son why did not call her more often and he said it was because I always wanted to talk to him when she got calls from him and that is so not true. Why would he say this. He said if I want to talk to your Mom I will call her but so far he hasn't he says he still loves me but not the same as before I guess just the way a husband loves a wife for bearing him children. but nothing else. Still I pray and stand for my marriage ... Maybe just maybe he will notice me totally missing and our daughter from his life I plan to send him a Fathers day card but asking God to show me whether I should or not... What do you guys think about the card any suggestions?
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
I would have any cards or gifts come from the kids, but not from you. That's how my H treated mother's day, and that's how I'll handle father's day. He may see a card from you as pushing.
Kelly
Me 39 H 45 T13 M11 D6.5 S4 ILYBNILWY July 07 OW e-mails found 12/15/07 H moved out 3/15/08
He caled his daughter last nite and he actually asked to speak to me... we said our hello's how are you talked about our dogs that he has with him.. the move to our new apt. I was so casual but my heart was racing cuz I was hearing for the first time in 8 days not a very long time but to me an eternity....guess you could say this was a tiny little baby step... felt good to talk to him.. Still praying for us and our family..I even ended the conversation first so that was a big thing for me.... I hope it keeps getting better ...but with God on my side what else can it get..
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
Irmat, I can not post personal info here, BUT if you are in contact with anyone on the board, you have my permission to get my email address, or IM or phone number.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
