However, whatever you do, Michelle, do not let him see you angry. Do what you're going to do in a firm but calm manner. Stand your ground without the anger. If he sees or senses it, he will believe even more that YOU are the problem, and not himself.
I'm sure you would say that at this point, you don't care. I've been angry many times and felt the same way, too. But in the end, the anger doesn't do a thing for you. It does not help anyone.
(((Michelle)))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Well then if you don't want to sign, don't sign and then file the legal S on your own to protect yourself.
His only other choice would be to get a lawyer and file D papers right? My guess is that he can't afford that....so he'll still be blaming you for him not getting what he want but boo-freakin'-hoo.
TAP could always pay for it...I fully believe that OW paid for my H to file
OW doesn't have a job. Never has. She's a spoiled little rich brat.
Everything is my fault again. But I'm not accepting that.
He's just gonna keep running. If my darling husband could get into the space program and thought the martians were cute, i'm sure he'd volunteer for that too!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Michelle... little secret... I've struggled with slamming it shut and keeping it opened that 1/4 inch a couple of times already in a week.
Basically... it's symbolic, just as much as it is practical. It's a visual of sorts... and forces you to place some restrictions on yourself of just how much crap and WAS psycho alien BS you'll put up with.
Letting go is what you have to do here. Honestly... the sitch at the moment looks bleak. Just the same though... so did mine 2 weeks ago... and today, I got H asking ME for a hug. (round and round we go). H doesn't like when I distance myself today. Didn't greet him with a hug. Was all business etc etc. I'm noticing more and more that this "dance" is a give and take... we too may end up in divorce... but I'm finding calmness is something that like patience... is on your side here. Time and calmness. Let him rant and pee up a rope all he wants... YOU take what YOU need as far as time, distance and whatnot to decide what to do.
As for the forgiveness... ah man... If told you the story of my sis in law... and what happened there... and what she had to forgive... you'd be surprised. At the time she too said she had moved on, etc etc etc... wouldn't forgive it etc. And YET... they're married today. It was a year of hell for her and she's guiding me through my "hell" now... don't be too sure about just what you think you can't/won't forgive, given the right remorse and circumstances.
This is one more in a line of roller coaster ups and downs. Whatever you choose to do... we support you.
*hugs* Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
I am afriad I will not give good DB advice either. Are you seriously in love with this guy or is it for you a battle, a war you don't want to lose? Think about it!!!
Of course I will support you too with whatever decision you make but sweetheart, this guy is not worth to look at you, not be married to you...
Again, don't sell yourself short and watch what you are wishing for beacuse you may get it...
Love K
This guy comes right out from the movies, unbelievable!!!
I say why make it easy on him. If he wants it, make him pay a lawyer to get it done right.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
