I think the anger is easier to handle than the anxiety. Somehow having a little anger tends to make you feel cleaner emotionally, at least that is what it does for me. The anxiety makes me feel like there is a dead weight in my chest. So anger is not necessarily a bad thing (((Michelle)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Entertaining guy bashing convo with a friend today lol
L: I asked [H] what he wanted in his "dream girl" on Sunday Me: this should be good L: he said she had to be independent and have her own career, but also be able to travel the world with him at the drop of a hat L: so magically wherever he goes she'd need to immediately find her own career and friends so as not to be a burden to him Me: we've already established reality doesn't apply to him L: men never see how their perfect woman is an impossible standard L: he expects a woman to make all the sacrifices since he won't compromise anything for her, and yet he doesn't want the kind of girl who will do whatever just for him L: she also has to be REALLY hot and adventurous in bed L: SUPER smart, like PhD smart Me: [H] said that? Me: WTF is he doing with SBW then????????? L: oh, she's his right now girl L: and while he's descibing this international brilliant money making gorgeous model, I'm thinking, YOU deserve this kind of woman???? Me: seriously though L: he wants the kind of girl that gets with highly reknowned diplomats and princes Me: yeah L: oh, but I'm sure she's expected to give it all up eventually to have his kids L: well, he saw me roll my eyes at his discription L: I pointed out how he was asking for someone to conform to his ideal job - which he doesn't even have and that that was pretty unrealistic, and he was like "I know" Me: i know?!? Me: omg Me: he's delusional L: he just figures somehow it'll all work out, and I guess he has a crush on some friend who lives in germany Me: [J]?????????????? L: if she's going for 2 phds then that would be the one Me: yeah, that would be her L: I find it really ironic that a guy who can't even finish his undergrad degree thinks he deserves someone with a graduate degree L: from what this chick sounds like she has a lot more choices out there L: would be hilarious if she just laughed at [H] Me: they've been friends since she did a yera exchange at his high school. he had a total crush on her back then L: he thinks he'll visit her on leave and they'll fall into this ideal romance he already had set up in his head Me: seriously???? L: he was like "I'll have 2 weeks leave and I can pop over to munich to visit my friend that I've always had a crush on" L: umm, pretty sure he thinks they'll hook up
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Ummm, yeah. No. My H is from Munich, and, well, they tend to be a little snobbish. They kind of like the people they associated to be within the same educational standards as they are.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
L: well, there is probably a reason they have never gotten together in the past Me: true L: and my guess is with his floundering about and all, he's not getting more attractive to women L: or at least, not the kind of women he claims to want Me: ummm no he's gonna have to play the military card a lot if he ever wants to get laid again L: so, I think give him 5 years or so and he'll have to have confronted reality Me: fat lot of good that does me L: well, he's trapped in this alternate reality L: and even when he knows he's being ridiculous he just says "I know" and expects the world anyway L: this [deployment] thing is just another way for him to dodge reality Me: yep L: he comes up with all these romantic scenarios of how it will change his life L: plus, it's not like he's planning on being celibate L: he kept saying "have you seen albanian women?" Me: ugh
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
My H's pet peave is stupid people. What he means is people who are uneducated and don't use common sense. There is also a woman I work with from Dusseldorf, and her opinion of her culture is that they don't have much patience for stupid people, and tend to say exactly what is on their mind. I don't know what your H is thinking, but Germans are hard workers by nature and generally do not take well to people who quit.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
