He left then Cheated ---Now What???

[No Longer BH]

Ok, ok, ok, I think I'm getting what you all are saying. Even though this really sucks for my S and me, looking towards my H to try and make it better aint gonna happen. No matter how much I want him to carry some of the burden for S depression, he is just going to use it as a tool to try and hurt me.

I know my H is the same as an addiction for me at this moment. Funny how I did not even see that I was trying to get my "fix" by emailing him about S problems. I can now see that is exactly what it was. At the time I thought I was being a good coparent by letting H know what was going on. H has sent me a couple of emails lately wanting updates on how S is doing. Should I just reply back that he should call S and find out from him from now on? We had agreed from the begining to always talk about S with eachother so that we could do the best for him we could. I understand H is screwed up in the head right now and really is not capable of taking care of S emotional needs. In fact, he is avoiding that as well. I had asked him many times in the past to please talk to S about the anger he was feeling. Whenever he has S he dances around the subject, saying things like "You know you can talk to me if you want." and then dropping it.

I was thinking the next time he sent an email about how S was doing to respond back with: S is doing better. Still is having some issues but I'm sure he would like to talk to you about them himself. Thanks for checking in.

What do you think?

Oh, and once again....obviously I have a pretty thick skull so I'm sure that there are going to be many more 2x4s needed my way. I appreciate the ones I have recieved so far. Believe it or not, I do take them to heart and try to follow the advice. Sometimes I just dont see that I have strayed from my path. Thanks again.