My son's birthday is the 21st, so it's a lucky day for sure!
I'm certain that it will be a tough day for you. On the one hand you must be so proud of your son and happy for him and on the other it will be sad, because of course, your own marriage is struggling. I hope that you can go and focus on the kids and not so much on how it is different than what you hoped for. It will a be a great day no matter what, right?
As far as my H dating, I'm certain he has. I even think there was a "long-term" relationship lasting about a year. I have no idea what he told her (if anything) about his true marital status but he has an active profile on the dating sites. And I'm pretty certain that in 5 years, he's been intimate with someone else. That's hard to accept, but I have to.
He has never introduced the kids to anyone he's involved with, he's very good at compartmentalizing aspects of his life.
I have not dated. But I have not tried very hard either. Like you, it hurts too much, and I do not want to be unfair to the other person. Now, if George Clooney should want a date, I'm pretty certain I would try that! Heh.
As far as contact with my H, it was pretty often for awhile, until I asked him why he called me so often (dumb, I know) and he stopped. Now I hear from him about once a week. I see him maybe every couple of months. It's hard. I still feel like I could pick things up with him and we could be a couple again, but I'm pretty certain he does not.
Married: 25 years Separated: 5 years Kids: 2, ages 21 and 24 Me: 53 H: 50
