LOL... I'm already into summer work hours. I'm @ work by 7:30 and gone by 2 each day except Fridays. TGIF starts at noon. :-)
I'm not a fan of Hatha yoga or any other strenuous workouts. For me yoga is all about the mind and flexibility. I get a high everytime I can put my pants on while standing. :-)) Have you considered a yoga retreat? http://www.stillpointyogaretreat.com/index.html this is where I do my workouts. The owner is the chubby bearded fellow in the white tank in the group photos. Man is he flexible !!! ...Soup
Hey! You sound great! You worked full time and cooked all the meals everyday, because your huband didn't eat leftovers???I Love leftovers. How do I sign up for that program? Take care of that hip. Being injured suc8s! If I can't work out, I get major league depressed. We've taken to walking on our base for 5 miles in 110 degree heat. Talk about a metabolism booster and sleep enhancer! Now, I jsut have to stay away from the alcohol when I get home! THAT'S a killer! Jeremiah Wright was in the Marine Corps!
I just checked out the link - it is beautiful!!! A perfect weekend getaway and very reasonable rates! I added the link to my favorites column. My yoga place is in a strip center with offices - you really do have to close your eyes to "get away."
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I get a high everytime I can put my pants on while standing. :-))
I bumped into a friend when I went out for breakfast on Sunday. He is a programmer that has just accepted a job in the financial district and reading up on finance stuff. His job will pay for an MBA at Northwestern or University of Chicago - and he is thinking about it. He described learning all this new stuff creating a "high" feeling! LOL!
I told him to go lie on a bed and hang his head upside down off the edge of the bed and then get up quickly - you get the same high - and it is less work!
I actually went to another yoga class today and am going again on Saturday. And on Saturday - my class will be followed by a massage at the yoga studio.
Thanks for noticing. I really do feel good - much more balanced and at peace with my life.
The X was - well was The X and I was much too co-dependent for my own good. I am hoping the next R will have a bit more balance - especially when it comes to the give and take part.
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Take care of that hip. Being injured suc8s! If I can't work out, I get major league depressed. We've taken to walking on our base for 5 miles in 110 degree heat. Talk about a metabolism booster and sleep enhancer!
The injuries have affected my workouts. The hip is all better now. I also bought new workout shoes - so I have happy feet too. And tonight - I am off to the our pool for my first evening swim this summer.
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Now, I jsut have to stay away from the alcohol when I get home!
FLTC, you are not the same man you were when you were D-bombed. You are much stronger. You won't feel the way you did back then when you return home. Of course, you won't be occupied with a war and surrounded by people - so you will be lonely at times. But is okay. Go to the gym and get out of the house and do the GAL stuff.
You will be fine - that is key believing and having faith that you will be better than okay with time.
I really don't have much to post about these days. It is summer - the angst levels are low.
My hip is back to normal. I am slowing uping my workouts - need to loose that stuff I accumulated while I was hunched over a computer. I am going to start swimming this evening - and well - yes, using new muscles again means parts of me will be a walking mass of pain... Sigh... when you let yourself go - that is the price you pay...
Shoe technology has come a long way in 5 years! LOL! I feel like I am barefoot - my workout shoes have no weight. Or perhaps I am high in life and walking on air! LOL!
Last night I had an 11 pm deadline. At 9 pm - I was still working and then decided to stop and "buy" an extra month to do the work. I could have finished it - BUT I watched PS I Love You instead. Yes, it cost me a few bucks - but work is always there - peace of mind is priceless - and it takes effort to maintain it.
As for personal R's - I am mentally ready to date - but well things have changed since the last time I was single. Men my age that have been in long term R's seem to move very quickly into new R's. And well I suppose my standards - if that is what you call it - are higher. I want someone that has taken the time to heal and is whole again. I want someone that wants to be with me - as opposed to "needs" to be with me.
Funny how in our 20's - men were typically the ones that moved more slowly than women. In my 40's - the women seem to move more slowly in R's than the men... Of course that is not always true - and I am counting on it not being always true!
Although sometimes the appealing thing about younger men - is that they seem to "need" me less... We'll see...
Nevertheless - I am in no rush. I have a very fulfilling life. I am looking for another person with a fulfilling life to share my life with. Ironically - when you are centered - you do seem to attract people that want to lean on your centeredness - but being centered is not "infectious." The person has to do the work on their own. And I like centered b/c it strengthens my ability to be centered. Off-center people - you need extra strength to maintain your centeredness.
Yes, I am babbling... It is warm and sunny and well my office has a mandate that all employees must nap for an hour - so well I am off to nap before my boss catches me awake... It this how people develop split personalities...
I use to be very pigeon toed and flat footed. When I learned to ski - it took effort to not cross my skis in those long ski days. When I tried out for track in HS - the coach told me to go home b/c "I was so deformed - I would never win any races."
I went to a place to buy walking/running shoes where they look at how you walk and your feel to figure out what shoe is best for you.
I told the shoe sales person about my feet issues. He looked at my feet and said - they looked "normal" - no hint of pidgeon toeness and very slightly flat footed.
I came home and looked in the mirror - and I am not longer pigeon toed! When I cross my legs and sit - my both my feet look completely straight when they hang! There are so many pictures of me with my feet turned in. And now it feels weird when I physically turn them in - to look like they use to! I am an even bigger believer in yoga than I was before!
I think you would enjoy yoga. The classes are full of type A people engaging in type A behavior - an obsessive determination to de-stress (yes we can make yoga a type A activity.
Hi Everyone:
My goals are centered on my own personal Battle of The Bulge. I have given up on stay at home W GF being a workout buddy. She complains about stress and depression but is not in a place to do something that requires commitment and discipline.
I did bump into working GF. She is my age and is always sitting at work - and is battling an unexpected emergence of The Bulge too. She is doing reformer pilates, pilates, bikram yoga and running.
Working GF is also going through The Bloat phase where you gain weight before you start to lose it. We have both turned into camels and are retaining water. Her H tried to be "logical" and explain it was a normal part of aging - pity the poor man! I of course have no H to take out my Bulge related angst on... sigh...need to find a BF to make miserable when I gain weight. LOL!
Neither one of us are into drugs and surgery and could care less about wrinkles. But The Bulge - we are not going to age gracefully - we are determined to fight The Bulge. She also refuses to go up a size - so we are both in pain at times when our clothes cut into our mid-sections. I have given up sweat pants and am wearing clothes that are a size too small - as a constant reminder to stay away from ice-cream and to create an incentive to work out.
New goal - I am going to wear clothes with non-tie waistbands. I use to notice when I "expanded" when I use to work downtown. This time - the whole thing snuck up on me during the course or roughly 4-5 months of a no movement life!
Life is good - well not so much for The Bulge which will be facing gradual eradication.
I have thinking about where one goes hunting for "men." I mean if I am going to be serious about dating - well I need to set goals. And my goals have an almost uncanny way of happening...almost like they go on autopilot once I make them. Hope Operation Bulge Elimination is on that track.
Okay being immersed at a conference with 5000 men - although on a platonic level - made me realize that I do enjoy male companionship.
The one thing that the men I have been attracted to seem to have in common is that they are secure, centered and happy with themselves. Ironically, all these men ended up being M which creates a possible paradox - Do men have to be in happy R's to be secure, centered and happy with themselves?
I read post after post on this BB about men that feel so much better AFTER they have met a woman or when a woman validates their attractiveness. It is a chicken and egg thing for me - I find men that do not require validation from me to be attractive...
I am not saying that there won't be mutual give and take validation and empathy and insecurities and all that good stuff once I get to know someone - but when it comes to initial impressions - secure and quiet confidence (not cocky, verbearing and a puffery) is very attractive and sexy.
It is also possible that the men that I find attractive through work - well many of these men are in their element at work and exude that quiet confidence and security in that environment... I don't want a rebel w/o a cause that is off chasing Don Quiote windmills (that is my job - just kidding) - I want stable.
A_O and Almosthopeful pointed out how my last list was a list that was compiled in reaction to The X. I am making the effort to figure out more of an active (as opposed to reactive) list. And I suppose I want that from any man that I date. Dating a man and his XW issues is well - three is a crowd... I don't want every attribute I bring to the dating table compared against and XW - favorably or unfavorably. Perhaps unreasonable - but I really am not into menage trois. I want someone that is healed enough to where the XW has faded into relatively irrelevance.
I am much more relaxed and open than I was a year ago. There is another seminar in Oct with 8000-9000 men - do you suppose there might be just one single one my age that is secure and confident?
Anyway - I won't be going out to "play" yet... I have adoption stuff, roughly 5-6 more work projects to get off my desk and a couple of home improvement projects that are long overdue. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel - my life is slowly but definitely approaching balance and stability. By the end of this month - I will have weekends off like a "normal" person again.
I know - I have this habit of needing what I have to be in order before I introduce new challenges into my life.... And part of this may be " X reactive behavior." The man majored in EE and minored in math - and did his thesis on chaos thery! LOL! I think he was testing those theories in our M!
Anyway to sum up my life at this moment - work pressure is wearing me down a bit. I am catching up but am getting a little tired of the pressure. I am taking time off and working on the physical and mental - which does introduce a guilt element when you are behind...
But all in all life is good. Nothing out of the extraordinary going on.
There are so many pictures of me with my feet turned in. And now it feels weird when I physically turn them in - to look like they use to! I am an even bigger believer in yoga than I was before! 
I have given up on stay at home W GF being a workout buddy. She complains about stress and depression but is not in a place to do something that requires commitment and discipline. 
