New to this forum and need help..

[TwinDad]

Hey Tmarie,

Sorry you are here, but this is a great place to come for help. There are a lot of good and kind people here.

I am at a loss, how do I do this. Do I give up and accept it, or do fight for my marriage and for my family? I know he loves and cares about me, but he said that he can only be in love with one person at a time and he is not in love with me. What do I do? Please help. Thank you for listening.

If you want your marriage to work then by al means fight for it. I would definitely read that book as fast as possible. There are some good sections on what not to do and a good section on infidelity that might be insightful. I would also look around some of the subforums that seem to fit what your sitch is and read some of those stories. You will probably find many people that have a lot of similarities.

Since your H and you share children, a home and 2 businesses then there will plenty of contact time for you to "show" your H the positive changes you can make in your life.

Don't get discouraged (easier said and done), this forum is full of people whos spouses said that they were done and that they had made up their mind.

Best wishes and I am sure you will learn quite a bit in your phone coaching as well