We post so much about our's and our children's pain and yet we all know how much the D hurts our family and friends and others such as our church family.
Monday night I was having coffee with a friend and ran into a pareent from my son's school. I mentioned to him I saw his wife at church the day before (they had been starting to go to church, searching for their own relationship with God) and before I could say anything else, he introduced me to his OW and said they had been kkeeping it quiet but that he and his wife were divorcing. He is an acquaintance, not a friend but yet it grieves me and any and all who will find out about it at the school. I am praying for him and plan on calling him but out of his mouth, in his introduction of OW was a comment about being together for 1.5 years so he has moved down that path and it will likely be like talking to any of our WAS's when they were committed to their stupidity. So sad.
Giving God thanks for the healing ATGB,
Thanks you for your kind words. So many of us undertook DBing because we wanted to "do the right thing, right?" Then when we realize the marriage is really over, we desire to heal and hear that we have to forgive but it just seems so incredibly hard. I have shared this journey and am indebted to those who have gone before me and those who have come along side me to help in this healing process.
I truly thank God that the healing that has taken place has come as quickly as it has compared to how long so many have suffered. I am also very aware that because of on going interaction and future challenges and disagreements (heck, we didn't agree with out spouses all the time when we were married, why would we expect to be in agreement after a divorce), bitterness and resentment will always lurk at our doorsteps seeking to take us captive.
Spiritual warfare I do believe in God and the bible so I also therefore believe in the enemy and his forces. I believe our spouses were tempted to pursue their own desires, seeking their own selfish happiness at the expense of ALL who suffer in the aftermath (incidently, we are all seeking our own happiness except when we sacrifice to do for others. I happen to look at my "sacrifices" as doing them because they please God, which pleases me so even my sacrifices are for my own ultimate happiness go figure!)
Back to "warfare"-
So I share all these thoughts and their biblical basis for them because I see this battle for healing and forgiveness as one that is really being fought in the spiritual realm which leads me to the only weapon (according to the bible) that is effective in the spriritual realm, PRAYER.
So I commit to prayer for myself and those who come to mind as well as those affected as a result of the the D.
Stand up guy?
ATGB, again, thank you but the only reason I might be viewed in any positive light is because I realize I can't do the things I need to do on my own and therefore I fall on my knees in confidence that God will hear me and that He will give me the strength and direction to do the things I need to do to live a life that is pleasing to Him.
May God bless each and everyone who ever comes upon this post and may He touch our X's, and all of those affected by our divorces.
And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away." Then He who sat on the throne said, "Behold, I make all things new." And He said to me,"Write, for these words are true and faithful."
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
He is an acquaintance, not a friend but yet it grieves me and any and all who will find out about it at the school. I am praying for him and plan on calling him but out of his mouth, in his introduction of OW was a comment about being together for 1.5 years so he has moved down that path and it will likely be like talking to any of our WAS's when they were committed to their stupidity. So sad.
go figure!)
