I read in one of your first posts that you were going to take a dancing class so you could dance with your wife... did you get a chance to do that yet?
Saffie said it brilliantly-- "what you do in piecing is really the template for the rest of your marriage."
Your wife has had a lot of mood swings since New Year's Eve. Make sure you look carefully at what actions may have preceded them and actions/events that made her want to reconcile.
Reread the posts above, they all have seriously valuable information in them. Take it slow, guage your W's readiness to talk and don't sweep it under the rug.
On the other hand, you need to check your anger and resentment and express your feelings in a constructive manner. What I mean is, if you told her you want to work this out and spent these 6 months treating her like your best friend, be careful that you don't suddenly expect her to be able to deal with the fall out all at once. You were DB-ing and treating her like your best friend because it was a change you made for YOU, right?
I also read that you had to stop going to your MC. I seem to remember that you felt it really helped while you were going. At the time you had to quit it seems that your W wasn't into working on your M and MC probably wasn't that necessary but some find that it really helps with piecing. Maybe this would be a safe place to discuss those hurt feelings you are concerned will fester? I guess I'd ask what telling her how hurt you've been would accomplish for you? Is there something she can do to fix this? Are you asking for remorse? You don't have to answer to us, just think about what you say and what you want to accomplish before it comes spewing out in a destructive way.
