I'm going to pick up that book too. I had a good weekend I stopped thinking about things that would end up hurting me and it works we went to my sisters for dinner had a nice time. My family knows nothing about situation including our kids, I am sure they knew something was going on but they never said anything except our middle child, she is the only one that asked if everything was alright when she heard a a glass break on the floor when H pissed me off but that was awhile back.
My H tries to reassure me that he loves me, H knows how badly I must feel at times notices when I'm quiet. I'm trying not to let things get to me. Just hanging in there. I haven't read your situation yet but hope things are going well for you.
M 45 H 42
D 26 D 18 S 16
Married 19 years Together 24 years ILYBNILWY 1/7/08 OW 10/11/07 ended affair 3/14/08 came home 3/14/08 last contacted ow 3/17/08 4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.
good on you that you kept it quiet, it is better that way.
Well, my sitch went south, we are legally sep., it is a long story, but my stbx left, had an A, came back, had the A again, it was a big mess, he has big mental problems (depression, narcisism, ADHD) and unwilling to do anything about it. He wanted the legal S, and it was just time to let him go. I did learn lots of good things while he was back with me for that year, I regret nothing, I did all I could, now I'm moving forward with my kids and I know I'll do great.
Good luck on your sitch, I highly encourage you let go of your anger, to forgive and to fight for your M now that your H is back and says he loves you.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
