I know all that but its putting in practice that is hard. I really don't think I need Puppydog, he is an aggressive type of person and I don't think that will work in my sitch. And I already called his house which my wife found out about and drove by it which she does not know about but have not done any of that since mid April.
it's not hard putting it in practice. "just do it"
Your W is giving to many good signals/positive signs for you not to go "all in"..
The problem with these sitches IMO..men tend to do stupid things. We get baited. We get defensive. This stuff leads to us flappin our lips and "trouble" rains down upon us.
If you love your W. If you want to save your M. Then you have to let this stupid stuff slide. No backslides..that's the key..
Keep your mouth shut, your ears open when your W says something. remember what she says, hell write it down if you have to, validate and show empathy. Love her unconditionally.
Be there for your W.
Lets be honest-if we had really been there for our W's in the past, would we be here NOW?
